5 Reasons Why Christian Men Should Pursue Polygamy
Let’s dive right into it. But first things first, for all my fellow Christians out there, I need to clear something up. Contrary to what you might have been told, there’s no biblical ban on polygyny. That is the term for a man having multiple wives. Seriously, take a moment to think about it. There are tons of things the Bible explicitly forbids, with punishments spelled out for each infraction, but polygyny ain’t one of ’em. No punishments, no condemnations, not even one negative word from God about it, nada. So let’s put to rest this idea that polygamy was just some Old Testament thing that “God allowed because of war or needing to populate the earth”. And don’t even get me started on the notion that “it always leads to disaster” schtick. Our spiritual ancestors, the whole lineage of Israel, came from a guy with four wives! And let’s be real here, the divorce rate among Christians is sky high, even hitting 50%. So don’t tell me monogamy is some kind of magic fix. It’s time to rethink our approach. Our current system? It’s far from perfect.” For more on this check out my video “Investigating Polygamy: A Biblical Perspective”. Now with that out of the way, let’s begin…
Reason #1: The Scarcity of Virtuous Women. Now, picture this: Solomon, the wisest man who ever lived, writes in Proverbs 31:10, saying, “Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.” Why’d he say that? ’Cause he knew what’s up. Virtuous women? They’re like rare gems, and that’s why they are worth more than rubies. Think about it, In today’s world, finding a woman of true virtue is like finding a needle in a haystack. It’s like searching for a diamond in a sea of cubic zirconia. Seriously let’s keep it real, have you seen what’s out there lately? So, hold up, Pastor, let me get this straight. You’re telling me I get one shot, one golden ticket, and I gotta hand it over to a woman who’s already been around the block, dated and probably even slept with several dudes? She’s been giving pieces of her heart away left and right, but I’m supposed to pony up? Nah, doesn’t sit right with most men. See, back in the day, monogamy worked ’cause chastity was a big deal. But nowadays, asking men to marry women who’ve been playing the field under the guise of monogamy? Nah, that’s just not realistic. So, listen up men, answer this question honestly, would you be more likely to marry a woman with a past if she was one of three wives and not your one and only? I think the answer is an obvious yes. Polygyny offers a realistic solution to cleaning up our current dating cesspool. It’s time to face the facts and consider new options, gentlemen.
Reason #2: Supporting and Protecting Women: Right now there’s a major imbalance in the numbers game when it comes to marriageable women and men. I’m talking 20 million more women in the US church alone. That’s a whole lot of ladies who need a covering, who need someone to look out for them. But what do we do? We put them in tough spots. We tell them “we will pray for you” or give them the “gift of singleness” BS. They’re left with the options of fornication, marrying a pagan who will only lead them further from God, or they face a lifetime of singleness, becoming the cat lady in the process. Not exactly ideal, right? In addition, God told us to “be fruitful and multiply,” later He also warned us not to be “unequally yoked with unbelievers.” So, which of these commands our sister break to uphold some tradition in monogamy that ain’t even in the Bible? Now, let’s talk about fixing that gender gap. Polygyny can balance those numbers out, giving women more chances to find a partner. Plus, it’s just plain smart financially; women can share the load of housework and child-rearing, making life easier for everyone involved.
Reason #3: Embracing Natural Desires. Check it, fam. Polygyny ain’t about ignoring our natural desires; it’s about recognizing and respecting ’em. Attraction, and companionship, it’s all part of who we are as humans. And have you ever wondered why women’s biological clock stops at 35 or 40 years of age, while men can be making babies until they’re basically fossils? God set that whole system up, my friends. Now that might make sense if women died at younger ages than men, but they don’t, men die younger. So it begs the question, why would God do that? Let’s face it: older men ain’t never gonna stop being attracted to younger women, and vice versa. It’s just biology, plain and simple. By embracing polygyny, Christian men can stay true to their natural inclinations while also staying true to their faith-based values. I mean have you noticed how so many young men are converting to Islam these days? It’s partially because they see polygyny as a way to fulfill their desires, flex some social status, and feel good about themselves without being told they are pieces of shit for doing it. But it’s not just about the fellas. Polygamy embraces the natural desires of women too. See, women are hypergamous; they wanna date up, and marry up. But with more women getting educated and earning like never before in history, it’s slim pickings out there. It’s like a game of musical chairs, and it creates a buyer’s market for dudes. Ironically, Biblical polygyny would increase women’s value because there would be more brides and less single women on the market, incentivizing men to marry younger before all the good ones were spoken for? Right now, outside of wanting to be obedient to God, there is almost no incentive for men to marry anymore. Polygyny changes that. In addition, it also lets women marry top-tier men without settling for scraps. Many women would rather share a good, godly alpha man than have a beta dude all to themselves. And with 80% of single women dating and sleeping with just 20% of the men right now, that proves to you what I’m saying is true.
Reason #4: Expansion of the Family and Community: Remember that “be fruitful and multiply command”? God meant that and it was one of His first commands. A woman can give birth once a year, but a man has the capacity to make hundreds of babies in one year under polygyny! God gave man that ability. Why would he do that? Plus, polygyny ensures kids inherit quality genes because more women are mating with the “Alphas”. The Bible says “Children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them!” Psalm 127:3–5 So th Bible teaches it is good to have a lot of kids,
The biological family is the number one tool to produce and raise disciples to take over the world and populate Heaven. But the devil has blinded us by convincing men they can’t have more than one wife. And let me tell you, that lie leads to all sorts of problems. Wives become rebellious, hard-hearted, disrespectful. And if the men don’t end up cheating and ruining everything, their kids grow up seeing them as weak and powerless so the pattern continues throughout their generations. It’s a vicious cycle, my friends. But polygyny? It breaks that power dynamic, empowering parents to raise good, godly children. You see, patriarchy without polygyny? Yeah, it’s possible. But polygyny without patriarchy? That’s just plain impossible. Polygyny is not only about expanding your family; it’s about building a strong community and raising generations of warriors for God.
Reason #5: FOMO: Many men fear getting married young because they have been taught when that their sexual marketplace value won’t hit it’s peak until later in life, it is going to rise as they get older, and that’s not wrong. Like selling a stock too early before it hits its high, they don’t want to sell themselves short and make a choice where they might feel like they settled later. They also don’t want to fornicate as they have been told that’s a sin, and that’s not wrong either. But they’re young and their hormones are raging, so what is a young man to do? Well because they have been falsely taught that monogamy is the only marriage structure acceptable to God let me tell you what they are doing: they throw it all out and just sleep around in their twenties and feel guilty about it. They sleep around and break women’s hearts in the process making it harder for the women who they slept with to pair bond with their future husbands. Remember, 80–90% of divorces are filed by women, not men, that’s a pair bonding problem and a direct result of the false doctrine of monogamy-only. With polygyny, marriage becomes more attractive to men. If a man knows before marrying that he can have more wives down the road if he chooses, that’s a game-changer. Men are unlikely to surrender their single opportunity, especially if they think there’s a chance they might find another woman they find more desirable down the road. So instead, they hang onto it and repeat an endless cycle of sinning and repenting, or just abandon the whole thing out of guilt. Again, God made provisions for all this and that provision is the ability to marry more than one if a man so chooses.
So that’s it, those are my 5 reasons why Christian men should pursue polygamy. In conclusion, In ancient times polygyny was used to restore fathers, provide for mothers, and help raise children. Ask anyone who tells you why it was right back then and not now, why we don’t need this again. So, fellas, let’s break free from the lies and let’s embrace the truth. It’s time to step up and reclaim what’s rightfully ours.
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